ADHD? Never compare yourself to others! Here's how to escape that mindf*ck.
"We go through our lives being told what our potential is, how smart we are, if we just applied ourselves a little bit more and if we were better organized, how we could really put that into use and really change the world!" - Katie McManus, Brave Business Coaching
If you're tired of constantly comparing yourself to an idealized version of yourself and feeling like you can never measure up, then this episode is for you.
We all have an idea of who we could be and what we could achieve if we just applied ourselves a little bit more and were better organized.
But what if, instead of constantly comparing ourselves to this idealized version of ourselves, we celebrated who we actually are and the progress we've made?
Watch a promo video for the episode that urges you to never compare yourself to others!
The damaging effects of comparing yourself to others
In this episode, we'll explore the damaging effects of constantly comparing ourselves to our potential and how to shift our focus to celebrating our achievements and who we are in the present moment.
It's time to let go of the idea of the perfect version of ourselves and embrace the journey of becoming the best version of ourselves, flaws and all.
The difference in the ways we approach work compared with our neurotypical peers
People with ADHD often get criticized for being lazy or procrastinating, but this is a misunderstanding.
Instead of procrastinating, those with ADHD are actually spending a lot of time thinking about a task before they begin.
They may play out different scenarios in their heads and try out different approaches, which can actually be a strength when it comes to tasks like arguing a case or solving problems.
This is because they are naturally inclined to considering different perspectives and approaches, thanks to the practice they've had trying out different scenarios in their heads throughout their lives.
So, while it may appear that they are procrastinating, they are actually doing the work in their heads before they tackle it in real life.
This episode about how you as an ADHD person should never compare yourself to others, covers:
- The negative effects of constantly comparing oneself to an idealized version of themselves
- The common occurrence of this phenomenon among people with ADHD
- The impact of this comparison on personal achievements and feelings of self-worth
- The idea that people with ADHD may have unique strengths, such as the ability to consider different perspectives and approaches
- The importance of embracing who we are and our unique journey towards self-improvement, rather than living in the shadow of an impossible ideal.
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Who will get the most out of this episode about why you should never compare yourself to others - even future you?
This episode is a must listen for people who struggle with constantly comparing themselves to an idealized version of themselves and feel like they are not good enough as a result.
It may be particularly useful for people who have ADHD or other conditions that affect their ability to be organized and complete tasks, and feel like they are not living up to their potential as a result.
We discuss the negative impact of constantly comparing yourself to an idealized version of yourself.
And I offer strategies for overcoming this tendency and celebrating your own accomplishments and strengths.
How you, the ADHD entrepreneur, can take action against comparing yourself to others, today!
As you're reading this, and about to click play, I urge you to do a few things.
- Have an open mind about whether you're guilty of comparing yourself to a version of yourself that doesn't exist.
- Grab a pen and pad or a digital note taking device. Alternatively, print out the transcript linked above. There are some decent gold nuggets in here that will help you solve this issue.
- Get ready to start being kinder to yourself, and only comparing yourself to yesterday you!
About Katie McManus
Katie McManus was trained in Executive Business Coaching and Leadership Development at the Co-Active Training Institute in San Rafael, California.
She's a CPCC (Certified Professional Co-Active Coach) and an ACC (Associate Certified Coach) with the International Coaching Federation.